Think back for a moment, to our best generations, which one would you go with? It honestly could have been the turn of the century around 1900, where new inventions and businesses were booming! Industry was strong. Maybe our best generation was the 1920's through the 1950's, which is where I think we find our strongest generation and how can we use that to "better" our youth? Let me explain with a brief "history".
What happened during the 1920's through the 1950's in America? For one we had a Great Depression and later on we were attacked on our "property". If you are thinking I am going on a very morbid ledge, you are right and wrong. We lost millions of people during those times. We also lost a ton of property during the Dust Bowl as well as some agriculture. With all those losses, what can a historian and sociology teacher point our in terms of our gains? OUR GAINS? Yes, our gains as a country. I find them to be a direct correlation to the Revolutionary War also! Let us take a few paragraphs and point out our wins during those times and how we can tie them in with our families today.
We showed the world that although we were a colonial "underdog" who was fast becoming fed up with our mother country - England. We had to pay a tax on this, and a tax on that. Taxing the tea was a massive issue, and our "homegrown" wares were able to be taken for nothing as well? Granted I am no historian, however tea, tobacco, and other items of our hard work and just taking those is asking for trouble. The end result for England was trouble. I believe we had to help England fund some of their other issues at the time. India maybe? They could have been trying to defend or take over other new territories. We fought back. We won. We were crawling into powerhouse status and we were no longer "the underdog".
The Great Depression and World War II were tough times, even if you only look at the photo's. The Concentration Camps will still make any mildly humanistic person sick to their stomach. What happened in Europe was an absolute atrocity and I pray will never happen again (it does; however it is for some reason not important enough to cover via media outlets). The Great Depression completely wiped us out as a majority. The bread lines, all sorts of problems were happening. It truly was a dismal age. What happened? Our unity and acceptance of each other was never scarred. We were attacked on our soil. I lost a Great Uncle to World War II as he was, if not the first, one of the first from Fall River, Ma to be killed in combat during that war. My grandfather and Uncle showed our true national pride. They did what countless others did, they suited up, kissed their wives and mothers and went out to right something that was morbidly wrong. What is that saying? OH! Mission Accomplished!
With all those win's we must be a hell of a country today, right? In all actuality we bicker amongst each other, we learned to hate our neighbor, we betray and abandon our family, and we allow OUR children to follow suite. What example are our children going to right about? Let's take a look at the wonder's we've led them to enjoy:
1. You can stay on welfare! Yes, there is officially no issue with that!
2. You are entitled to get whatever you want, WITH NO HARD WORK!
3. Tell your parents to **ck themselves, it's okay you have DSS to back you up!
4. At 13 you can pretty much have all the sex you want and your dad doesn't even have to know you've had 5 abortions by the time you were pushed through 11th grade.
5. Why cook a wholesome meal to help our kids have healthy growth and development? We have fast food!
6. Work hard for something? Hell no! We have affirmative action now!
Therefore, the legacy we are giving our future generations to read about us is:
1. We have no self-respect
2. We are weak
3. We cannot do anything for ourselves
4. We let people committing a crime by being here illegally have more rights than those who were born here
5. You work hard? You can pay for everyone else! (Isn't that sort of why Communism failed?)
So our legacy tells our future in the coming history books we hate ourselves, plain and simple. That's okay with you? IT ISN'T?!? With a long "ummm" I have to ask, what are you doing about it? I have the highest amount of commendations for our previous generations, however this one does not show one single semblance of the pride, dignity, respect, honor, or courage that our past gave us. The good news is that instead of bailing ourselves out from "good" Ol' Uncle Same we can rebuild and learn to save by making economics mandatory. We can tell our elected officials we want to know (because we have the right) how to communicate with them and remind them when we as a collective whole give them an order, it's no longer optional for them! Our best interest needs to be served, and it starts with you. We can't be the book nerd pushed by the cocky popular jock any longer. We can fight back, by regaining our values.
Let's do it!
PS: My children think twice before opening their mouths back to me, they hardly tell me no unless they are exhausted, they don't have to be reminded (normally) to say please and thank you, and time and again they are said to be "the most well behaved children" many have seen. I take the pride I just preached about and do my job as their dad - it is nobody else's responsibility.
I love you Brie, Owen, and James!
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Monday, March 21, 2011
Fathers Rights?
I had the luxury of eaves dropping on 2 women both done up very nicely talking about their job. They simply go to court every 3 months and get a pay increase! Interested in how they do it? Easy they abuse the system and take advantage of the courts seeming need to ignore fathers rights. Previously I mentioned how fathers rights is pretty much a non-existing phenomena. I was very incorrect based on the conversation, the fathers rights are a true fact and apparently include paying for a household which they do not dwell in. Unfair you say? Would it be fair if those 2 women couldn't commit blatant fraud? One of the women lives with someone who I believe I overheard owns 3 plumbing businesses? The other has a boyfriend in jail who is doing time for distribution of crack and something else I missed. She collects the money from his posse and just has to visit him, her childs father works 2 fulltime jobs and pays $1,600. Pretty funny right? The way she was laughing she atleast found it hillarious!
Fathers rights do exsist, I was wrong! Some are extremists on either side of the child custody argument. Fathers rights should be, but are not more of a hot topic especially with so many children born out of wedlock. When I go to court I do not see many verdicts going with" dad" though, even when I see women chewing gum and rolling their eyes when the dads describe a change in their living situation. I remember one couple where the father looked very sharp minus the fact he had a few holes, very scuffed shoes, and asked for a reduction in almost a whisper because he was embarrassed in having a court room hear his story! Talk about humbling, and" Goldy Locks" (she looked like a million bucks, literally flawless) laughed at him. I wanted to scream" Hey Judge, isn't there suppose to be some respect in your court room?". The lady didn't even get a look from the" Honor" (that term is used EXTREMELY loosely). When asked if she was OK with it ( is it not the judges job to judge a situation? Does anyone else hear the whip sound women have over the "justice system" {I still chuckle everytime I hear that}) she literally yelled absolutely not. Guess why, well actually your guess would be as good as mine. Why, after all I was there paying close attention. Easy, she wasn't asked for her reasoning!
Fathers rights are a topic that needs tto be adresses and courts should cease in acting as if they are the sheepish lion when women are involved. I am not trying to put women down as I highly respect single mothers, but rather am severly bothered by the abuse of the system and paying for cowards in robes. Fathers rights need to exsist if our country is as diverse and fair as it attempts to portray itself.
Fathers rights do exsist, I was wrong! Some are extremists on either side of the child custody argument. Fathers rights should be, but are not more of a hot topic especially with so many children born out of wedlock. When I go to court I do not see many verdicts going with" dad" though, even when I see women chewing gum and rolling their eyes when the dads describe a change in their living situation. I remember one couple where the father looked very sharp minus the fact he had a few holes, very scuffed shoes, and asked for a reduction in almost a whisper because he was embarrassed in having a court room hear his story! Talk about humbling, and" Goldy Locks" (she looked like a million bucks, literally flawless) laughed at him. I wanted to scream" Hey Judge, isn't there suppose to be some respect in your court room?". The lady didn't even get a look from the" Honor" (that term is used EXTREMELY loosely). When asked if she was OK with it ( is it not the judges job to judge a situation? Does anyone else hear the whip sound women have over the "justice system" {I still chuckle everytime I hear that}) she literally yelled absolutely not. Guess why, well actually your guess would be as good as mine. Why, after all I was there paying close attention. Easy, she wasn't asked for her reasoning!
Fathers rights are a topic that needs tto be adresses and courts should cease in acting as if they are the sheepish lion when women are involved. I am not trying to put women down as I highly respect single mothers, but rather am severly bothered by the abuse of the system and paying for cowards in robes. Fathers rights need to exsist if our country is as diverse and fair as it attempts to portray itself.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
What is child support?
If you ask anyone involved with a non-profit they'll tell you that time is the most valuable asset they have. Those that give unselfishly and with extreme compassion are the fundamental of any non-profit. In a sense dads act the same way toward their children, when allowed, which makes me wonder why that is hardly taken into account in the courts.
In no way is this a pity trip for dads out there, however why are we still seen as nothing more than walking paychecks? It's as if the courts would rather a single mother raise her child/children while the dads are told to worry about nothing but working. As a dad my most enjoyable moments in life literally involve my children smiling. Be it Owie smiling with ego when he says he's a big brother or Brie smiling when she realizes her input is blatantly desired.
Children need unbiased and unforced involvment from dads as well as moms. It's highly unfair fathers are mearly a tool for financial resources in the eyes of others. Being a single parent is far from easy and I commend those that religiously put out an effort to make things work through a partnership. If a child craves time with a parent why are lines "it's not daddy's day" an acceptable response? I heard today while working a mother withholding her child from seeing his father because he was out of work sick the previous week I believe and couldn't pay her support in full.
If this mindset of entitlement is to continue, will the childrens' best interest ever be considered? How are the times "so different" and how can we say we are "growing in acceptance" as a whole if this is still not adressed? I have known countless fathers who work literally to provide someone elses lifestyle. I do not mind convenience, but if we want what's in the best interest of the children how about this "equation"?
A father who makes no effort at all to see his children, or does not value their time with them should pay a little financially. It's the least he can do, right?
If a dad is told he has to support his child, how about taking the child clothes shopping? Play catch with his child or ride a bike instead of having a need for baby sitters? If need be, have the dads submit what they buy for the children, that is kept at their house. Allow parents to compromise as partners and go through councelling if need be. It would be people could seperate their selfish needs and desires and truly put their children first.
In no way is this a pity trip for dads out there, however why are we still seen as nothing more than walking paychecks? It's as if the courts would rather a single mother raise her child/children while the dads are told to worry about nothing but working. As a dad my most enjoyable moments in life literally involve my children smiling. Be it Owie smiling with ego when he says he's a big brother or Brie smiling when she realizes her input is blatantly desired.
Children need unbiased and unforced involvment from dads as well as moms. It's highly unfair fathers are mearly a tool for financial resources in the eyes of others. Being a single parent is far from easy and I commend those that religiously put out an effort to make things work through a partnership. If a child craves time with a parent why are lines "it's not daddy's day" an acceptable response? I heard today while working a mother withholding her child from seeing his father because he was out of work sick the previous week I believe and couldn't pay her support in full.
If this mindset of entitlement is to continue, will the childrens' best interest ever be considered? How are the times "so different" and how can we say we are "growing in acceptance" as a whole if this is still not adressed? I have known countless fathers who work literally to provide someone elses lifestyle. I do not mind convenience, but if we want what's in the best interest of the children how about this "equation"?
A father who makes no effort at all to see his children, or does not value their time with them should pay a little financially. It's the least he can do, right?
If a dad is told he has to support his child, how about taking the child clothes shopping? Play catch with his child or ride a bike instead of having a need for baby sitters? If need be, have the dads submit what they buy for the children, that is kept at their house. Allow parents to compromise as partners and go through councelling if need be. It would be people could seperate their selfish needs and desires and truly put their children first.
Monday, August 2, 2010
Is It Dad's Turn?
This blog is going to receive a valiant effort from me on a very neglected and unjust topic. This topic isn't spoken of NEARLY as often as it should be, the topic is "Dad's (not fathers) Rights". I have a very personal reason for getting involved in this, the reason being I am a proud dad! It's time our voices as dad's are championed. When parents go to court, mothers (not mom's) have a very good reason to be excited, they're probably walking into an automatic paycheck. Dad's, on the other hand, have an even greater reason to be fearful, we're seen as dollar signs.
When you think of activist, you may, and rightfully so for their great efforts, imagine P.E.T.A., N.A.A.C.P., or a variety of Women's groups. As I asked in my title, what about dad? If we as a country need all these changes for all these groups, so we can't be labeled as "unjust", why aren't the father's mentioned? Imagine our country'spast for a brief moment as you ponder the pure importance of a couple of ideas:
"Go ask your father"
"Dad knows best"
"Wait for your father"
And lastly, when referring to our past, have you ever heard the term "Fore Father's"?
I'll introduce myself and give my story down the road. I ask you comment and share your opinion. I am not saying every father is perfect, far from that actually. A dad is the male who stoops to his child's eye level and speaks to them with the same respect he asks. A dad sacrifices for his children. A dad is who tirelessly listens to glass shattering trumpet practice and feels nothing but pride, dad won't even move for the ear plugs. As I grow in age, I see who my dad and grandpa's are (and in one sad case were). They are the hero's I can only try to become. I do swear to anyone who'll ask, there is absolutely nothing or anyone I can ever put before my children, including my own needs and wishes, there is no possibility. I am sternly positive I am far from the only one who feels this way. To my fellow dad's, congratulations and do not stop. Our roads are a little tougher generally, but when we get those can't hide it smiles from our children, our effort has been paid back.
When you think of activist, you may, and rightfully so for their great efforts, imagine P.E.T.A., N.A.A.C.P., or a variety of Women's groups. As I asked in my title, what about dad? If we as a country need all these changes for all these groups, so we can't be labeled as "unjust", why aren't the father's mentioned? Imagine our country'spast for a brief moment as you ponder the pure importance of a couple of ideas:
"Go ask your father"
"Dad knows best"
"Wait for your father"
And lastly, when referring to our past, have you ever heard the term "Fore Father's"?
I'll introduce myself and give my story down the road. I ask you comment and share your opinion. I am not saying every father is perfect, far from that actually. A dad is the male who stoops to his child's eye level and speaks to them with the same respect he asks. A dad sacrifices for his children. A dad is who tirelessly listens to glass shattering trumpet practice and feels nothing but pride, dad won't even move for the ear plugs. As I grow in age, I see who my dad and grandpa's are (and in one sad case were). They are the hero's I can only try to become. I do swear to anyone who'll ask, there is absolutely nothing or anyone I can ever put before my children, including my own needs and wishes, there is no possibility. I am sternly positive I am far from the only one who feels this way. To my fellow dad's, congratulations and do not stop. Our roads are a little tougher generally, but when we get those can't hide it smiles from our children, our effort has been paid back.
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